Posts by ID Crisis

i felt good about standing my ground, and repeating that i had not "grinded" with this ex-friend and that she wants to ruin the relationship i have now with the sister i am dating.. however, the two elders today really tried to pressure me.

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BF whether or not you bother with details and the elders, it's time to take stock and own up - to yourself. It reads poorly of you to try and justify your actions by saying that the sisters wore mini skirts and low-cut tops and they said they wanted affection and they came on to you and ... and ... and ... It's off! Unless this is a bit of a joke - in which case too it is of poor taste. Here in Australia we've got a guy on national TV who keeps getting into public trouble and keeps justifying himself. You could take a page out of his book. It's boring. Women are over this sort of bullshit - JWs or not. I hope most men are over it too. Just own up to yourself. Please.

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I need advice on the DC

by thebigdebate in

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i haven't been to a meeting in over a year, my husband longer, but he came with me to the dc last year to help me with our 4 children ( our youngest was one).

that was the last thing either of us have attended.

we have a trip planned and come home the wednesday before the dc and he does ont want to go, nor will i force him to.

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Ours was a few weeks ago and it was my first time with my two children (previously I attended the 3-day conventions on my own). I seriously cannot recall much and took about 4 pages of notes - in a small booklet. I spent most of my time rationing food and supervising quiet activities (colouring, drawing, colouring, drawing ...) for the children, as 'expected'. My non-witness husband joined us on Sunday and he was really just a third 'dependent'- with the added 'bonus' of providing a running critical commentry (sp?) about every talk (just about every point, really). The DC lost him totally when the speaker giving the public talk mentioned that this organisation was the only one approved by God's spirit. I too was lost on that point. Anyway, getting back to your post, that very first reply by Jamie got the gist of it: you don't have to go. And you don't have to justify, scheme, or pretend or be nasty about it. Just don't go if you don't want to. End of story. PS: on Sunday my 8-year-old very loudly declared to his father "It's boring at first, Dad, but you get used to it".

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Anyone from Down Under?

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i'm a newbie.

anyone else here from australia?

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Willywombat, how did you get out? Did you discuss it or just stopped going and doing??? ID

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Did Being A Witness Make You Feel Better About Yourself?

by minimus in

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some persons need to feel they are validated because they don't have much going for them otherwise.

being a part of jehovah's organization makes them feel special.

being different from other religions makes them feel recognized,.

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Chickpea, that's the thing that gets me down too - the 'doing more' versus the pretence of 'balance' ... ID

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witness humour?

by ID Crisis in

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is it just my impression or has there been an increase in attempted humour by jw speakers and 'experiences'?

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Is it just my impression or has there been an increase in attempted humour by JW speakers and 'experiences'?

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Anyone from Down Under?

by ID Crisis in

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i'm a newbie.

anyone else here from australia?

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Thanks, sweetstuff ... A lot of things don't add up ...

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Anyone from Down Under?

by ID Crisis in

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i'm a newbie.

anyone else here from australia?

ID Crisis

Thank you for all your responses! I'm approx 180 km north of Melbourne. I'm an active JW with lots of questions and doubts about the so-called 'truth', the self-identified 'faithful and discreet slave' and the 'organisation' that declares itself God-directed. I love God but increasingly I'm wondering if I'm in 'Babylon the Great' and if I need to 'get out of her' ... ID

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Ever wonder how seemingly smart people can be duped?

by fern in

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does anyone ever wonder how their seemingly intelligent family members can be so totally taken in by this religion?

i look at my parents and just wonder how in the world do you fall for this jw crap?

neither of my parents are college educated but by no means are they stupid and have good judgement and sense when it comes to a lot of things, but not this religion.

ID Crisis

Hi Fern, Isn't it interesting how we (mis)read posts? I assumed your parents were 'new in the truth' and that you were resisting it ... And here you are, brought up as a JW and your parents long-term JWs ... I feel a bit silly now, telling you 'how to suck eggs' (do you use this expression in the USA?). I'm a JW from an atheist family, with an Anglican-Buddhist husband and two boys who attend some meetings with me. I'm not forcing the so-called truth on them - because I myself struggle with it all ... I often feel like a 'fake' JW - like I'm not a 'real' JW. I look at the long term JWs in my congregation and I'm often tempted to think that it's easier for those who were 'brought up in the truth'. I do realise that's simplistic. I assume (hope) I'm an intelligent person and yet I struggle, I can't quite work it out ... I know many others who struggle. And then there are those who genuinely like it, like your parents. What a wide spectrum of complex experiences! And yet, I do feel very strongly that it's not about intelligence or the lack of it. It's much more complicated. I hope you're doing OK ... ID